As a life coach, I often ask clients where they get stuck. It is a question I often put to myself, although, in honesty, when I am rolling along on auto pilot, I can forget to ask. When I take the time to do so, however, I get noteworthy responses.
To illustrate, here is a recent true story. A fellow coach and I decided to take each other through a three-month coaching commitment. One week I’d coach her and the next she’d do the same for me. As I was coaching her, she came up with some great goals for her three-month commitment. Knowing that the following week we’d switch roles, before the session, I started working out what I thought I wanted for my goals, and, calling upon my coaching tools, I began doing the work. That is the beautiful thing. I had the tools; I only needed a nudge.
Once we have figured out where we get stuck, then we can move ahead to get free of the excuses that keep us from moving forward.
These questions help:
- What change are you seeking? It could be a new job or relationship, the next step in your business, starting up a new business, regaining better health, or managing your emotions better, to provide a sampling.
- Is your self-critic holding you back? (It always tries. Note to self: ignore the voice.)
- What is your greatest fear? Get real with that fear. Write it down. Write them all down. Read them aloud. They aren’t as scary when you face and voice them.
- What is your perception about your situation? Your perceptions form your reality. (Hard to believe but you do control your perceptions.)
- Are you waiting for permission from someone else to change your life? Stop waiting and give yourself permission. Yours is the only permission you need.
- What action do you want to change? Focus on your actions and not just your feelings. Then ask, once you take that action, how will you feel?
- What are you committing to? What can you commit to? Commitment is the bridge between you and your goals. Commitment creates competence and competence creates confidence.
- Who can help you? Ask for help.
- If you lived in an excuse free zone, what would you do?
- You are 100% responsible for your choices. What is one choice you can make to move yourself forward?