Gratitude-Not Just For Today.

Gratitude-Not Just For Today.

Gratitude This one single word changes our entire life. Everyone talks gratitude this time of year. It’s the holiday to be “thankful”. I think it is wonderful that there is a special reminder to take time out of our day to count our blessings. I am not discounting the impact that this day can have on our lives, those of our families and friends and the world at large. G-d knows we all need it. However, I want to talk more about having appreciation in our lives every day. Gratitude is the number one game changer for happiness and peace. It transcends fear and disappointment. It quiets the unrest and monkey mind. It creates space so faith can grow. It deflects the need to know and allows life to unfold organically. It invites us to lie down in our own green grass without looking yonder at other pastures. It helps us to step out of our gooey muck and put on our “What’s Right Glasses” and rejoice in the splendor of our lives. I recognize that wearing the “What’s Wrong Glasses” is our default way of thinking but it keeps us stuck in our stories and in our lives. It keeps us from finding the lessons and cherishing the gifts. It keeps us from rejoicing in what we do have and paying it forward to those less fortunate. Holidays are times to be among loved ones and to feel safe and cozy in the womb of our familiar. But, what about all of those who don’t have that luxury? Those who have lost their loved ones and/or lost their...
Grace, Flow and Letting Go

Grace, Flow and Letting Go

  In both skiing and life, it is all about grace, flow and letting go!  I had the honor of once again being a participant in a five day, ten hour a day, ski program entitled Magic of Skiing (aikiworks.com).  I have taken this camp 13 times. It is so much more than just skiing and we spent a few hours a day immersed in mind, body, balance exercises and discussions (off and on the mountain). What struck me more than ever this year is how much skiing is a metaphor for life. So many of the instructions from our pros about skiing also apply to our day to day lives.  The following were quotes from the camp about skiing. “Life is a series of grabs, you either dance with those grabs or you get stuck.”   We all know how this happens. Something happens and we take refuge in our story, and get stuck or we can chose to look for the gift and lesson and push forward.  We have these grabs many times a day on the mountain as well as in life. “Maximum joy, minimum struggle.” Each moment the true warrior cuts through his or her story and steps forth from their vision. They embrace the mystery, cut through their story and create a new habit.  In skiing, we learn to leave our story behind us.  Examples of our stories are:  the temperature,  our last fall, the noise of skiers too close to us, flat light, blizzard conditions, hills that are so steep, bumps or ice. “Every bump is not an obstacle but an opportunity”. The bump...
Dear Glorious Universe

Dear Glorious Universe

Today is my birthday and I want to take this moment to tell you how grateful I am to you.  I know you always have my back and certainly more times than not, I am aware of how lucky I am and what an amazing life I have. There have been so many times of great joy in my life and I have been grateful.  I have also had times of great sorrow.  I have always been aware that my life has high summits and low valleys. I never was a middle of the road kind of gal. It hasn’t always been easy to be grateful in the valleys but I finally understand that the gifts come in those times. I now understand you are leading me to these situations and people and it is for me to ask:  What is the lesson you want me to learn?”  I know to step back and look at the situation and search for the gifts and the lessons.  I am learning the lessons and I have become accustomed to saying to you: “Bring on the small lessons”! I no longer need you to knock me over the head with the big lessons because you have my attention!  (Are you thinking, finally?) I am blessed by everything that is occurring in my life.  My parents just left Aspen a week ago and I skied every day with my 90 year old father and woke up every morning to answer daily questions from my mother as she tackled her iPhone, iPad, texting and her computer.  They both amaze me! I have two spectacular...
The Art of Self Love

The Art of Self Love

In celebration of Valentine’s Day, I wanted to discuss the greatest love of your life. Self-Love is a lost art. Self-love is fundamental and monumental to our well being. I use to think I loved myself because I had self-worth and self-confidence, and I believed I valued my mind and body. I came to realize, however, that self-love is very different from having a healthy respect for your own worth and abilities. I grew up with parents who instilled self-worth and confidence in me. I grew up really believing I could be anyone I wanted to be. That is a gift my parents gave to me and a gift I hope I gave to my sons. But as we grow and begin to make meaning of the world around us, our shadows and doubts about ourselves develop. We are meaning making machines, and our young minds aren’t emotionally mature enough to understand everything around us, so we give events and situations meanings about ourselves and the world around us. We come to believe that parts of ourselves are wrong, and we begin to compare ourselves to everyone around us. We hide the parts we don’t like, and we hide the qualities our parents or others told us were wrong. We learn to judge our abilities, our bodies, our minds as inferior. We compare our accomplishments to others. Little by little our innate love for ourselves diminishes. We don’t see it happening. We begin to punish ourselves and develop ways to hide those aspects we don’t want the world to see. We stop putting our needs first, and we stop...
Be The Relationship You Want To Have

Be The Relationship You Want To Have

  I think these are among the most significant words I have heard in a long time. They have so much meaning for me and come up so often in my life. Who gave me such amazing words of wisdom? It was my son Jared. Both of my sons are always giving me pearls of wisdom and ways to make my life better, happier, healthier, calmer, and most importantly more balanced. There are times in my life over the last 15 years that I feel out of sync with family and friends. I don’t always feel like my old self or that I fit in or that my relationship or life is how I want it to be. All of the work I have been doing around acceptance and surrender helps with most of this. It is a matter of keeping check with my negative talk and all the shoulds in my life. We all have them. It is all our perceptions about our lives. Our perceptions are what cause our pain. As a coach, it is so easy for me to recognize this with my clients. When it is with me, there is always a check in or self-review that is needed to bring me out of that victim mentality. There are times I see my self as the victim and I don’t think someone is treating me the way I would like to be treated. This is when those pearls of wisdom are so significant. When the victimhood sets in and the shoulds set in, it is the perfect time for me to say to myself: “Be...
Who Would You Be Without Your Story?

Who Would You Be Without Your Story?

Who would you be without your story?   Every one of us has a story. Each of us as human beings has a story about our life and ourselves that either empowers us or disempowers us. The story either shuts us down or opens us up to new possibilities. At our highest, our story exists to protect us, to help us grow and to help us function and make sense of the world around us. More often, our story developed to protect us and allow our ego to make sense of the world. However, it ends up defining us and limiting us. It dictates the course of our lives.   The beliefs we have about ourselves that lie dormant in our subconscious support our story and direct our life. Our ego holds on tight to our story. But we can choose when and if we let it go. What is the main culprit for keeping our story? Resistance. The minute we think this “shouldn’t” be happening, we are in resistance and we hold on even tighter to our story. When we see our self as the victim in our story, we are in resistance. How do we know we are in our story? Our story is the noise that is always in the background in our minds. The noise, the negative talk that we all have, is our story. The limiting beliefs and our excuses for why we can’t have what we want; is our story. When we listen to the noise, it defines our choices and limits everything we do. There is an exercise we do in a ski...
The Right Questions for the New Year

The Right Questions for the New Year

  The Right Questions for the New Year As we say goodbye to 2014 and welcome 2015, I want to introduce you to Debbie Ford’s extraordinary book, The Right Questions. In her book she states that in order to create the life we dream of, we need to ask ourselves the right questions. The most basic truth in all of her questions is that we have a choice.  As adults, everything we say or do is our choice to make. This is a fundamental reality that is sometimes the most difficult concept for people to accept. We need to consciously be aware of our choices and how they form our future. Only by looking and taking responsibility for our choices, past and present, can we can stop repeating the mistakes from our past. This is the beginning of a new year and the perfect time to take stock and take responsibility for the life we lead. To reach the goals and create the life we desire, we need to make choices that are in alignment with where we want our lives to go. For so may of us, we get stuck in resistance. We live somewhere far left of where we want to be. Our lives have a sluggish feeling similar to being stuck in muck. We don’t know how we got here or how to get out. We may even point fingers at others instead of looking carefully at the choices we have made that landed us exactly where we are today. Recently someone very dear to me said she had no control of her thoughts. I totally disagree....
The Powerful Pull of a Vision Board

The Powerful Pull of a Vision Board

The Powerful Pull of a Vision Board What is a “Vision Board”? It is a powerful tool that helps you manifest the future you visualize. It uses the “law of attraction” that became so popular from John Assaraf’s best selling DVD documentary-The Secret. The Law of Attraction proposed that all forms of matter and energy are attracted to that which is of a like vibration. You are drawing situations, jobs, people and more in to your life. Any thought or desire you have, when combined with emotion, pulsates out in to the Universe and will attract back what you desire. Abraham-Hicks affirmed: That which is like unto itself is drawn.” What you are asking for must be very clear.  Vision boards are a type of blueprint for the future you’d like to create for yourself.  Then you focus on it. You say; “Yes” to it. You give it all your positive energy. You raise your vibrational pull by concentrating on it. You believe in it. Be doubt-free. Have faith that the Universe will bring what you are manifesting. It will come when it is time. All you need to do is expect it. Act and think like you already have it. Be grateful. This is the beauty of the Vision Board. It activates the law of attraction to begin to pull things from your external environment that will bring you what you desire. The images and visuals you create on your board attract those things from your environment that are in alignment. This selective attention makes you more aware when things show up in your day-to-day life that reflects those desires. You...

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